Aug 5, 2019
A listener asks what to do when love does feel like a zero sum
game; his wife took a lover, and our listener felt like he got even
less sex than before.
0:00 Introduction and host
Under 18? Stop listening now and visit http://www.scarleteen.com
1:00 Intro and host
- Minx recorded an episode of D&D Dads podcast with J.R.
Blackwell, but the podcast hasn’t yet launched. Stay tuned!
- We had fun in Copenhagen!
3:00 Poly in the
9:00 When love IS a zero-sum
Listener Micah writes in to ask what to do now that his wife
brought up the idea of poly, started dating someone half her age,
and is now having much less sex with Micah.
- If we are painting a rosy, easy picture of poly, we need to
change, because the emotional development required for polyamory
(or any relationship) takes time and effort.
- Lusty Guy wonders about the use of the word “affair”—is this a
reflection of your jealousy, or do you feel she wasn’t being
- The issue is likely some preexisting issue in your relationship
(perhaps the libido difference, perhaps something else). This
sounds like “relationship broken, add more people.”
- To strengthen your relationship, have an honest conversation
with your wife. Stop comparing before and after the metamour and
start talking about the behaviors you want to see to feel better in
your relationship. And ask for the same of her.
19:00 Happy poly
A monogamous listener writes in to share a happy not-poly moment
about not panicking when her fiancé shared that he was attracted to
a colleague, and our listener could accept it without jealousy or
- Soft Shell Crabby wrote in a follow up after we address her
question in episode 574
Is it OK to ask to meet my metamour (spoiler: it helped,
and they are better now!)
- Reama says some really nice things about the quality of our
23:40 Thank you!
Thanks to our new Poly Weekly Playmates, Mirjam, Syncione,
Quinlan, and Melvin!
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