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Aug 14, 2021

A listener falls in love with a relapsed, suicidal alcoholic and asks how to move forward when her husband hates this new relationship that makes her so happy.

0:45 Introduction and host chat

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1:30 Lusty Guy’s Politics Corner: look at your party’s track record

The next time you’re wondering about what side of any given political debate to adopt, consider the track record of the folk advocating for each given side. If they are among those who think the 2020 election was stolen, say, you can reasonably assume they have a long track record of being wrong. And, as we all know, past behavior is the best predictor of future performance.

6:20 Contact us

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6:30 Topic: My husband doesn’t like that I’m dating a relapsed, suicidal alcoholic

A married listener is dating a relapsed alcoholic. When her husband asked her to stop seeing him, she tried, but he was too drunk to understand and then threatened suicide. A while later she took up with him again and tried to get him into a facility, and then she started not telling her husband when she was seeing him. How do you go forward when your husband hates the new relationship that makes you happy?

  • Loving an addict is hard
  • What does N’s wife have to say about his behavior?
  • Forming feelings before meeting someone face to face is a warning sign
  • This is why addicts lose everyone before they bottom out
  • Put yourself and your safety (not your feelings) first

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18:05 Feedback

In response to episode 485, Kate says that aromantic folks call that emotion “squish”

18:50 Happy poly moment

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