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Nov 24, 2019

I have abandonment issues, but I don't know what I need when they come up. How do I ask my partners for what I need?

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5:55 Topic: Dealing with abandonment issues

Katie has abandonment issues and asks how to better cope with them when poly. She knows she has them but doesn’t know what to ask for when they arise.

  • Knowing and identifying is half the battle.
  • Explain to your partners what you shared with me—how it feels. Ask for their help with comfort might you need in the moment. Do the full analysis when you’re not in the midst of the issue.

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