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May 14, 2018

A listener writes in to ask how to weed out the jerks when dating.

0:00 Introduction and host chat

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1:00 Host chat

3:10 How to weed out the jerks

Heather writes in to ask whether she should leave “poly” off her dating profile, since the last few guys either dumped her for someone else or might have been lying about being divorced. How does one weed out the creeps when dating?

  • Poly is no guarantee of easy dating, any more than monogamy is
  • Tips from No Dick Pics: Your Guide to Creating an Irresistible Online Dating Profile
    • Define what polyamory means to you and state specifically how you practice it
    • Try putting in a “test”—link to your user manual and ask a question from it to weed out anyone who hasn’t read it. Or put in a quote from your favorite movie and request that respondents put the title of the movie as their message subject—that way, you can see immediately if they took enough time to read directions or not.
    • Set dating goals that are independent of other people’s actions, such as “go on five dates this month” or “meet with my friend to sift through messages together” or “spend one night a week on self-care”
    • Go do thing you love; be your best and happiest self

15:15 Feedback

Kim calls in to keep Minx honest

16:15 How to make this podcast better

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