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Apr 21, 2017

How do I say "no" to a reasonable request from my partner?

0:00 Introduction and host chat

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Today’s cohost is Kevin Patterson

1:30 Announcements and host chat

Multilinking conference

3:45 Topic: how do I tell my partner no?

Eva writes in to ask how to tell her partner no to a request. Her partner Lisa wants an additional date night each week, but Eva doesn’t feel she can give that and wants to take time to settle into her nesting relationship with Denise. How does she say no to Lisa? 

9:15 Feedback

Vir Modestus took issue with our advice in episode 507 How do I get control of my fears?, and even wrote up a blog post about his frustration with “you’re insecure” being used as a way to dismiss someone else’s emotional reponse.

23:15 Happy poly moment

Kevin shares a happy family poly moment

24:45 How to make this podcast better

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